It never fails, I look at my ex-boyfriend now and wonder..”What the hell was I thinking?” It always seems like a good idea at the time but love makes you see things that you normally wouldn’t and not see things that you normally would. It’s only after the relationship is over that you look back and wonder what you saw in this person that you thought you loved.
I see him at work almost every single day and I just shake my head and know that I have made some pretty dumb choices in my life. But then I realize that all of these choices that may have been mistakes at the time have taught me valuable lessons and made me who I am today.
That relationship was a bad idea not because he’s a terrible person but because he was not a man, There is no sugar coating this, he was and still is a boy. Our 4 year age difference felt more like 10. I took care of him like I took care of my children. He played video games for more hours than my 11 year old son. He was not emotionally mature. He didn’t know how to take care of a family. He didn’t have what it took to be in a committed relationship.These are all things that I should have known in my 5 years of friendship with him that I basically overlooked. Now when I see him wearing the same style sneakers as my son, with his over-sized head phones on and his printed T-Shirts I wonder if my head was up my ass.
I know that I’m not the only one who has these realizations so my question is… since love makes us “deaf, dumb and blind” how do we ever know if we are making the right decision when it comes to relationships?