Yesterday I as talking to a friend whose relationship status recently changed from “single” to “in a relationship” so I asked her the typical question of “So where did you meet him?” She made a funny face and said “Oh, I don’t want to tell you that”. I pressed her a little more and then she finally told me (what I already knew) in a very soft whisper while covering her mouth as though she was about to reveal that she had a third nipple, “we met on-line”.
I wonder why in this day and age some people are embarrassed to admit that they are using a dating website. I mean where exactly are we supposed to meet someone? At work? tried that, epic fail. At the gym? tried that too, turns out he had great biceps but lacked some brain cells. At a bar? Most guys at the bar are regulars who will on girl after girl, some even hitting on you months later at the same bar forgetting that they hit on you before. At the library? Who the hell goes to the library now that the internet is around?
So basically, the web is the new library or bar and it allows us to select what we want. It gives us the popportunity to do what we love, shop. We can select an age range, minimum height, body type, income level, and so on. It can be a great thing. Hasn’t been a great thing for me but I know others who have had great success. I’m not embarrassed to say that I have tried out three different sites since I have been divorced. Granted I lasted all of one month on Match.com, one week on OKCupid and have been on EHarmony for 2 months with little success but part of that is my own doing. I know what I want and what I don’t want and I probably hit “Close Match” over 90% of the time.
So ladies and gents, don’t be embarrassed if you are using a dating site, because it’s like the next Face Book, everyone has a profile now-a-days.